If you follow us on Twitter (therelevantdad) you may have seen that we are obsessed with Dax Shepard’s new podcast Armchair Expert. He has upped his game with a new series on his feed called Experts on Expert and his first guest is the amazing Wendy Mogel. Trust us this is a MUST LISTEN. It’s like she knows all of the deep parenting worries that we all have…well, duh, of course, she does she is the expert in this shit. Please take a listen, it will make your day and make you a better parent instantly.
In this inaugural episode of Experts on Expert, the Armchair Expert speaks to author and child psychologist, Dr. Wendy Mogel about human patterns of behavior, the impact of social media on the family and the importance of free-reign grandparenting. Wendy gives advice on how to speak to children and Dax asks for reassurance on his parenting strategy. The two of them breakdown the moral dilemma of behavioral diagnoses, the role of fear and Wendy discusses a study that uncovered the one thing every child wishes they could tell their parents.
Dr. Wendy Mogel is a practicing clinical psychologist in Los Angeles, New York Times bestselling author and international public speaker.
Here is the goal for the rest of the year. Turn off the 24hour news channel because that shit isn’t helping your creeping anxiety, at all. Sure, it’s fun to watch The Handmaids Tale but that also isn’t helping your peace of mind either. We have made it a goal to read more for the rest of the year but what does that mean? If you haven’t picked up a book in a while (like since college awhile) here are five books that we have either read or want to read and so should you. Look, these are five books, you can read five books in six months right? Do it!
The Soul of America: The Battle for Our Better Angels by John Mecham ($18)
#1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Pulitzer Prize–winning author Jon Meacham helps us understand the present moment in American politics and life by looking back at critical times in our history when hope overcame division and fear.
Alexander Hamilton by Ron Chernow ($13)
“Well the word got around, they said, “This kid is insane, man!” Took up a collection just to send him to the mainland “Get your education, don’t forget from whence you came, and The world’s gonna know your name! What’s your name, man?” Alexander Hamilton My name is Alexander Hamilton” Read the book that inspired the hit musical that your tweens and wife have been singing around the house for years.
Like Brothers by Mark & Jay Duplass ($19)
These prolific brothers have created some of the most consumed content of the past 15 years but how did they get here? This quirky memoir builds off the bond of these brothers and delivers a fun glimpse into their minds and world. This books makes you want to be a better man and a better sibling.
An American Marriage: A Novel by Tayari Jones ($18)
Listen Oprah loves this book so how dare you not! This beautiful book about a modern marriage is simply beautiful. We read this book at the suggestion of our local librarian and it did not dissapoint. “This stirring love story is a profoundly insightful look into the hearts and minds of three people who are at once bound and separated by forces beyond their control. An American Marriage is a masterpiece of storytelling, an intimate look deep into the souls of people who must reckon with the past while moving forward–with hope and pain–into the future.”
Obama: The Call of History by Peter Baker ($29)
You may have seen Peter Baker on Showtimes hit docu-series The Fourth Estate as he tireslessly weeds through this whole Trump/Russia debacle. Before he was on the Trump beat with the NYT Washington beureau he covered less scandelous presidents including Obama. Sure Pete Souza’s coffee table book is a good look but Peter Bakers dives deeper into the Obama presidency.
The fine folks over at Sweet Valley Organics sent us some of their amazing Organic Dark Chocolate Snack Bites and we can’t put them down. It’s a problem. They are so good guys. We often are looking for a sweet snack after dinner, sure some might call it desert but that word screams ice cream or brownies and those words scream another 45 on the elliptical and who wants that right? That is where these snack bites come in handy. We have been satisfying our dessert craving with these nuts & fruits that are USDA organic, fair trade certified, non-GMO and made with no preservatives. Oh, did we mention that they are all covered in dark chocolate? “Chocolate, it doesn’t just make things tastier, it makes things better-er.” What makes these snacks amazing is that everyone in the family has been enjoying them. Check out the 3yo taste testing the varieties with me.
Wouldn’t it be nice if the moms in your life said something like that about the thoughtful gifts that you give them year after year? There is an art to giving the right gift, at the right time, to the right person. You have to listen and observe and most of all know what products are out there to be gifted. The folks over at Knack have quickly mastered the art of curating a set of items that will delight the mom you give it to. So, if you want to hear her say “Oh my gooooood, I loooooove this” then take the accumulated knowledge you have learned about your mommas and pair it with the ease of creating a fully customizable set from Knack and have an amazing Mother’s Day. It really should not be this simple to nail gift giving.
The Perfect Coffee Break ($48.00)
When you can’t walk 3 blocks without buzzing by another coffee shop, it’s sometimes nice to get your caffeine fix at home, before the day starts. This gift lays the–ahem–groundwork for a great cup.
For those with a passion for travel, this gift set easily takes her from sightseeing to shopping to an evening strolling a favorite avenue after dinner. The airy Rita Cotton Scarf in shades of blue and gray paired with the PVC Crossbody Bag creates a beautiful fashion statement. We’ve also included a couple of pamper items – Bohéme Amber, Vanilla and Musk Hand Cream and Herbivore Lip Conditioner. Send her off in style.
TLC Gift Set ($62.00)
The porcelain mug is cleverly designed with a faceted surface on either side of the handle, perfect for those who like to embrace their cuppa. We’ve included one of our best selling sweet treats, Cici’s Handmade Lemon Cookies, and a delicious flavor sachet of dried fruits and edible plant leaves that can be steeped to create a relaxing, nutritious drink.
Better Than Therapy ($110.50):
Rough day? Better talk to some wine about it. This is the gift set you turn to when you (or a girlfriend) have had “one of those weeks”–the kind that calls for dimming the lights, turning the tap to HOT, lighting a candle, and dipping into your stash of Chardonnay In A Can to enjoy in the bathtub. Yes, you read that correctly. You see, unlike bathtub gin, bathtub wine is really quite delicious and not at all scandalous (well, not very). Plus, it’s quite an intelligent choice when you consider how much safer you’ll feel without the risk of a slippery wineglass, right? Follow it up with a no-stress coloring session paired with an assortment of eight culinary inspired chocolates.
Someday pretty soon you are going to get into your car after work and the thermometer is going to read 70 and you are going to roll down the windows and put on that fire Songs to Sing In The Car playlist and roll. When the warm weather starts to hit day after day here (Relevant Dad HQ is in New England) there is nothing better than getting home for work with the sun still high in the sky, the kids happy and playing outside and a cold beer to share with your significant other. Spring marks the end of stout and porter season and makes us think of some farmhouse ales, sours and saisons. Here are few that we have been loving or are on our must try list this spring.
Imperial Peach Gose – Southern Tier Brewing Co. 8.3% ABV
This gose will be available in April and it sounds amazing. This limited release is brewed with peaches, chamomile, cardamom and coriander. The few early testers on UnTappd have said it is tart which is perfect for us! “On the palate, the strong acidity is balanced by the inherent sweetness of the peaches and the herbal nature of the extra ingredients” We can’t wait to try this.
A Presentation Of Wild Things (American Wild Ale) – Common Roots Brewing Co. & Plan Bee Farm Brewery 4% ABV
This exciting collaboration from Common Roots and Plan Bee is on our spring must-try list this year. Reviewers have remarked that this all NY sources ingredient wild ale is “slightly tart” “crisp and light” and our favorite “soft and supple”. We love soft and supple.
Carina Peach Sour – Ecliptic Brewing 5.5% ABV
“Loaded with fresh peach flavor, Carina is a sour ale perfect for any time of year. The use of Pale malt makes for a crisp character, while lactobacillus gives Carina a tart and refreshing finish.” Imagine the warm spring setting sun and the taste of this not to sour and even a little sweet brew. read more…
When you are talking about the multifunctional Impact made by Draggin Bags we certainly think so. This fully funded Kickstarter backed bag is just about the most impressive and durable bag we have ever seen. Made from 500d Cordura (that is some strong stuff) and crafted to be nearly indestructible you can rest assured that this bag will be with you for a lifetime. The surface is coated with a water and dirt repellent coating which will leave your bad looking stylish long after the “unboxing” when you receive it. We can’t help but want 20 of these for everything from our tools, our fishing tackle to our toy cars and Lego accessories. You never know when these bags might come in handy. Fill one with the essentials and get out the door dad.
We’ll be honest we had never shopped on Swap.com before we were gifted a credit from them earlier this spring. Boy, have we been missing out. This site is amazing for everyone but especially parents. We have all been there, you know sliding hanger after hanger at the local consignment shop just trying to find something in 4T that is actually worth buying. How often do you leave empty-handed? If you are like us, you get skunked nearly every time.
Swap.com is the site for you parents. It was so easy to find some fun new “used” clothing for the whole family. Yeah, I got some sweatpants and buddy I have hardly taken them off. “Have you washed those yet?” asked my wife last night. Anyways, Swap.com has the type of granular shopping filters that one can only dream of. Do you want something in 6-9mo, gently used, girls, from a group of hand-selected brands like Baby Gap, Hanna Anderson, and OshKosh? You can get that specific. They even have an extensive collection of never worn clothing. We all have those kids clothes that people have given us, you know, the 2T sundress when your girl would be in 2T in December.
Check out all the amazing brands and clothing that your whole family can shop. Where else can you get a toddler dress from Tea, a LulaRoe dress for your wife and a J.Crew Button-down shirt for under $100? Nowhere. Just click on over to Swap and take a look and see what you can find for your growing family today. Save money and shop like a boss.
Use these discount codes EARTHDAY40 and EARTHDAY20. (Good until 6/30/18)
Looking forward to your next vacation is essential to staying sane if you work a 9-5, or have kids, or work at all, or just being a human really. Once you have a couple of kids you find yourself dreaming of mini trips away from them. You at first feel super guilty about it but don’t. It is so important to have alone time with your significant other. (What a weird term significant other is right?) It’s important to have alone time with your kick ass and foxy other. That’s better.
Anyways, we are strong proponents of the weekend getaway, the three-day lover’s retreat, the backpack soiree, which is why we love Pack Up + Go. This unique travel service gives you a brief survey on where you live, your budget, your passions and places you have been. Then the magic happens. They take care of everything for you and the best part? They keep everything a surprise to you. You will get a packet in the mail a few weeks before your trip with some suggested items to pack, the forecast for your destination and where/when to be on your departure day.
“A few days before your trip, you receive an envelope in the mail, which you do NOT open just yet. This envelope contains directions to your accommodation, and your city guide. Since you don’t have time to do research on your destination, we do it for you! We’ll send you off with a curated list of recommendations for everything from cafes to nightlife to rainy day activities. We promise you won’t be bored wherever you go.”
Ummm, does this sound like a parents dream or what? If you check out the testimonials online everyone has glowing things to say about Pack Up + Go. Once we get the littlest out of diapers and formula and can actually afford this service we are sooooo there. If you take a trip through this site please let us know!
This is the big dog, bad boy, mother of all that is holy, shut the front door, check yo self, shut it down diaper bag of all diaper bags. When you need a bag that holds more than what you need for a simple trip to the grocery store THIS is the bag you need. Baby K’tan has long been one of the premier brands in the baby gear world and this weekender bag is no exception. Boasting (huge breath in) nine compartments, a wet bag for dirty diapers, a changing pad, wipes dispenser, a damn COOLER pocket for keeping things cold, binky pouch (gasp in) antibacterial nylon, secure velcro opening, laptop compartment and 100% cotton exterior, oh baby give daddy one of these. The only thing this beast doesn’t come with is a baby but you can work on that right guys? read more…
Oh shit…Valentine’s Day is like right now. You’ve known that for weeks but you still haven’t picked up anything yet, have you? Thought so. Sure, you could overnight something on Amazon but she’ll see right through that. Besides, she may not even want stuff. Chances are she just wants some downtime to herself. Here are some last-minute ideas that could potentially save your ass this year.
Flowers from Urbanstems ($35+)
Sure, flowers die and it’s kinda cliche, but you should still get them anyway. If you don’t have a garden where you can pick your own, Urbanstems is a new startup that offers a selection of fresh, seasonal bouquets hand delivered within hours via bicycle in Manhattan, Brooklyn, Queens, and DC areas.
Breakfast in Bed (or Out)
The point is: don’t let her cook. Find an easy recipe on Yummly and let her stay in bed while you cook (tip: make sure you have some Nutella on hand. Moms love Nutella). The kids will probably want to help, too. If you’re the type of guy who can’t even make toast, then take her out to brunch or, better yet, pick up her favorite breakfast dish from her favorite restaurant and serve it to her in bed.
Make a Card
Any guy can swing by the corner drugstore the day before and pick from a limited/terrible selection of Hallmark cards. But don’t. Make your own. It doesn’t have to look nice. The most appreciated cards we’ve ever given our wives were made in Microsoft Word and printed on computer paper because the sentiment and words came 100% from the heart.
I’m so tired. Why won’t she sleep? I got what…4 hours total last night? It’s okay if I curl up under my desk for a few right?
You give up a lot of yourself when you become a parent, but perhaps the thing you will miss the most is sleep. Oh, sleep sweet sleep where did you go? Listen, we don’t know how to help you sleep more once you have kids, it never gets better, at least not for years. So, in lieu of not having any advice on how to sleep more, we can offer you some products that will help you and your partner sleep better.
Moonlight Pajamas ($70) For the relevant mom, a super nice pair of pajamas that will make her feel like a starlet from the silver screen.
Vintage Pajama Set ($95) Relevant Mom swears by these J-Crew pajamas, ultimate style and comfort.
It is not a cliche to say that one’s coffee consumption skyrockets upon the arrival of a new baby and never really plateaus until they leave for college. Okay, maybe not college maybe just sleeping through the night but both milestones will seem eons away in those first months of parenthood. You know, come to think about it ones coffee consumptions really just increase with the child’s age, speaking as a father of a 3 year old and a 9 month old coffee may be the most important thing in my life. So, why not consume it in style? What’s that told adage? Work smarter not harder? Well, I say drink smarter not harder. No, that makes no sense. Drink smarter not hotte…nevermind I need a coffee to figure this tagline out. In the meantime check out our list of coffee items we are enjoying here at Relevant Dad.
Ember Ceramic Mug – $80 The number of times you will find a cold cup of coffee forgotten in the microwave will go from 5,000 to 0 with this mug that keeps your coffee at the exact temperature you want it from “this first sip to the last drop.”
La Colombe Coffee Flask – $30 Because give me one good reason not to have a coffee flask? Exactly.
Ten Cup Chemex – $48 With pour over coffee in vogue and quite frankly a better cup this Chemex is the way to go when you have the time. It’s way prettier than a Keurig and your taste buds will thank you.
Cafflano Portable Pourover Kit – $110 Speaking of pour over superiority this portable kit from Cafflano is just amazing. Impress your significant other on the picnic or family hike or just enjoy while watching soccer practice from the sidelines.
Trees Knees Coffee Maple – $14 Okay, so this one is a cheat but dammit it’s sooooo good. Drizzle on ice cream or pancakes just about anything that brings you comfort can take a dollop of this gem.
Not going to try and blow smoke here guys, it’s been awhile since we have exercised to the point of ruining a pair of headphones with sweat. In our 20’s it happened on more than one occasion, oh how we long for the days. Running around town shirtless looking like a slightly older Zac Efron (or not) waving to the passers-by while listening to Graduation on the awesome iPod Nano.
The time has come to get back into shape and we found our new favorite headphones from Hexnub. These sweatproof earbuds are perfect for exercise, connect wirelessly with Bluetooth and are actually comfortable to wear. The battery life is around 8 hours and the price is amazing for the quality of these earbuds. At the rate that we break or lose headphones, you bet we will have these bookmarked for repeat buying. It’s been a few weeks of playing with these guys on our commute, doing yard work and yes even on the elliptical while watching The Office on Netflix. The sound holds up in all settings and we could not be happier. Check them out below by clicking the BUY button and grab some for a gift this holiday season as well.
Google has just released a new smart camera that you can set up in your home to capture those oft-forgotten or missed candid moments. “Google Clips is smart enough to recognize great expressions, lighting and framing. So the camera captures beautiful, spontaneous images. And it gets smarter over time.” The AI tech on this camera seems pretty fun. The more it recognizes a face or your pets the more it will take clips of that subject which means the quality of clips that you save will improve over time. The shots will save to your phone’s Clips app and you can edit them into moments using the amazing Google Photo’s app. This is just the perfect app for families who want to spend time IN the moment and not sit behind the screen snapping photos. Now you can laugh with your partner and capture the moment remotely as your toddler puts their legs over their head and mimicks farting while yelling “toot, toot, toot from the butt, butt, butt!” Wait…is that just in our house?
If you are stuck on what to get the mom in your life for Mother’s Day (which you should not be, cough) we suggest you get her a fun picture session from a local photographer. If you live in the lower New England area we have a good deal for you. Our friend KFP Photography has put together a few perfect gift sets for mom that she will love. Each set comes with a few items that she can instantly pamper herself with and a family photo session that will produce memories for her to keep forever. We know you try hard with your iPhone to capture the fun and insanity of being a parent, but sometimes it’s best to let a pro get those few perfect framable shots that will hang proudly above your couch for years to come. Nothing will make mom happier. Contact KFP today to set up your gift box!
Tulum Weekender by Vaalbara ($232) – It’s a step up from her diaper bag and a step closer to her feeling as fabulous as you see her.
Manual Coffee Maker ($99) – Coffee is a gift in and of itself. Just make it for her.
Notorious RBG: The Life and Times of Ruth Bader Ginsburg by Irin Carmon ($14) For a little inspiration. #resist
This book might hit too close to home if you are cube monkey or as the author put it a “parasitic employee” of a faceless corporation grinding out a work day, after day after day. This collection of interconnected short stories is a great weekend read, you can finish it with just before you are sucked back into your office full of other parasitic employees as the nest closes in around you. Buy it below on Kindle.
Read the piece that Jack did on David Letterman for us here.
Life comes at your fast. Especially once you have kids. You can win the husband of the week award with your s/o by making their life a teensy bit easier. The on the go momma would love to have Stowaway Cosmetics Every Day kit nearly tucked into the side of their diaper/gym/bug out bag.
The Everyday Kit includes 6 of their core products: Beauty Balm, Creaseless Concealer, Cheek & Lip Rouge, Creme Lipstick, Effortless Eyeliner, and Mascara. All of the products are TSA and EU compliant, 100% paraben, phthalate and Animal Cruelty-free! The set is customizable as they understand women have different preferences when it comes to makeup. And they have an excellent Beauty Concierge team who are happy to help with selecting the right shade and colors for your partner in parenting!
I’ll be the first to admit that my first kids baby book is hidden away half filled out and a huge cause of guilt for my wife and me two and a half years later. You young parents know, it’s hard to find the time to fill that sucker out when Stranger Things is waiting to be binged in between midnight feedings with baby and potty training the toddler right? tl/dr, parenting is hard man, so why make it harder? The amazing folks over at Sticky Bellies have put out an awesome modern memory book that is well suited for the Millenial parents. The book is easy to use and features
52 total pages
10-inch x 9-inch hardcover
4 pages for pregnancy details
6 pages for details of baby’s arrival
12 pages for month-by-month documentation of baby’s first year
4 pages for holidays, special firsts and milestones
10 pages for birthday memories
2 pages for the first day of school
1 page for notable things the child says
1 page to write a letter to baby
6 blank pages to use as you like
packaged in a keepsake box
Add a reminder to your phone for every month and take the time to write down your memories and milestones. Trust me, you won’t regret it and you won’t be sitting her 29 months later trying to remember at what month did your kid do that amazing thing.